QUALIFIED COUNSELLOR, NATURE THERAPY PRACTITIONER, PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND WELL-BEING COACH
I’m sure you have plenty of questions and I will try to cover as many of them as possible on this page.
However please feel free to contact me personally if you feel you want to know more and you prefer talking to someone about your needs.
My motto is ‘there is no such thing as a stupid question!’
So who am I?
My name is Vicky and I am a qualified counsellor, life coach and psychotherapist.
But first and foremost I am a kind, honest, compassionate and patient human-being who offers professional, confidential, and safe therapeutic services for you to share whatever is happening in your life; either past or present; which has urged you to seek help with right now.
What are my professional qualifications?
I qualified in 2019 with a Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling which complimented my Life Coaching, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) qualifications and experience which I had already gained in previous years.
I am also a qualified Nature Therapy - Shinrin yoko Practitioner who offers walk and talk mindful style therapies.
As a professional counsellor I hold current membership of the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP) which means my work is underpinned by an Ethical Framework which puts you, the client, at the heart of the work I do; first and foremost.
I am insured and also registered with the Information Commissioner's Office (ICO) to enable me to make sure that you have confidence in the fact that I am respecting your personal information whilst we are working together.
I also have a current enhanced DBS and update my safeguarding training every two years.
What experience do I have?
My career initially started in the legal advice/charity-voluntary sector where I was supporting people from lots of diverse backgrounds who were experiencing complex issues with;
Looked after children
Unaccompanied Asylum Seekers
Domestic violence and abuse,
Sexual violence and sexual abuse,
Childhood domestic and/or sexual abuse,
Mental health, Crisis and CAMHS involvement,
Sexual health and fertility,
Family Therapy and support work with complex and dysfunctional families
Parenting Practitioner and Parenting Advice
Play Worker & Youth Worker
Legal and Money/Debt Advice
Housing and Homelessness
Employment, unemployment, redundancy and career change
On a personal note; I have a lot of life experience which I bring to my practice.
I myself am a survivor of parental domestic abuse; I was a single parent, and I have experienced homelessness and poverty many times in my childhood and early adult life. As a result for many years I too suffered with my own mental and emotional health, and at times found myself in some very dark places feeling isolated, incredibly lonely and unable to cope.
It was only through admitting to myself that I needed help, and then learning to trust another human-being with my deepest, darkest and most shameful parts of my own self; was I able to start my own journey towards acceptance and healing.
My counsellor was first and foremost; human, and it was due to her authenticity and kindness that she gave me permission, just by her own presence and way of being, to open up and share my pain with her.
And it was liberating!
So why did I become a counsellor?
For most of my life; I found that friends, customers and work colleagues would confide in me their worries, concerns and deepest emotional conflicts and I found that I was a natural at offering a listening ear and at times a shoulder to cry on. This quality of mine I held with the deepest respect for those people who felt they needed someone they could trust to share their most private thoughts and feelings with.
In my subsequent work I found that my strengths lay in being able to listen to and support people to have a better understanding of themselves and empowered them to make the necessary changes they felt they needed to overcome their issues and stop repeating old patterns of behaviour or thinking which was preventing them from leading more happier and fulfilling lives with confidence in their own sense of self and abilities.
So what areas of work do I cover?
“I tend to work with the belief that the client is the expert in their world; not me; for only the client knows themselves best.”
My way of working is humanistic and person-centred initially as a core value; but I’m also experienced enough to be able to integrate other forms of therapy such as life coaching, inner-child work, CBT or mindfulness for example; if it is in agreement with the client and necessary to the success of therapy overall.
I regularly attend CPD throughout the year to keep my knowledge up to date as well as enhancing my professional skill-set and services I offer to you.
The main areas/themes of work I have dealt with include;
Common Life problems
Relationships & Domestic Abuse
Self esteem and confidence issues
Identity related issues
Disability related issues
LGBTQi related issues
Addiction and narcotic abuse
Stress related issues
Grief & Bereavement
Occult & ritualistic abuse
Anger and conflict
Dysfunctional and Complex Families
Homelessness & Poverty
Bullying and Harassment
So what is counselling and what does it feel like?
I of all people know, that admitting to yourself that you need help, is a big thing!
And with that admission comes all types of feelings; shame, pathetic, anger, disgust, weakness, sadness, ‘no-one can understand me, yet alone help me’ and all of those thoughts and feelings themselves just heap onto what issues you're already struggling with.
So as a result we then turn those feelings inwards on ourselves or take it out on those we love; hence the cycle of hurt begins to turn and then becomes stuck and we feel powerless to move forward or imagine ourselves ever being truly happy and free from pain.
Counselling is, in essence; the greatest gift and act of self-care you can give yourself.
Trust me; it truly is!
Going to see a counsellor should feel as natural as going to see your GP.
However there is still so much stigma and shame attached to emotional and mental health issues.
For me personally; counselling is primarily about the relationship you foster with your therapist; for if you don’t feel comfortable and safe with your therapist; it would mean that you wouldn’t be able to get in touch with what’s distressing you and would inevitably make counselling useless.
“It’s the relationship that heals” Irvin Yalom, Love’s Executioner 1989
In my therapeutic relationships with my clients; I am authentic, honest and real. Together we work in the ‘here and now’ with whatever you choose to bring to your sessions; I do not direct or dictate your sessions.
Our sessions are weekly (unless otherwise negotiated) and will last for 50 minutes. The duration of your therapy is dependent on how complex your needs are and how open you are to working on yourself.
There is no magic wand or quick-fix solution; believe it or not you have all the answers within yourself.
Counselling works more effectively if you are open to challenging all of those thoughts, feelings and fears which have kept you stationary for so long and prevented your ability to grow. As a counsellor; I show you how to access your own tools and resources within you and use them to the best of your ability.
I do not tell you what to do, I do not give advice, and I will not judge you for the decisions you have made or the thoughts and feelings you have either now or in your past.
I am a great believer that ‘knowledge is power’ and my way of being as a counsellor is to help you get in touch with your own innate healing abilities, as we all have them; and learn about what’s happening to you now and have an understanding of how your past has influenced your present self and influenced your ability to cope with your own thoughts and feelings now.
Then together we’ll find new ways of seeing yourself, your relationships, and the world around you which benefits your healing and ability to cope with whatever life throws in your path in the now and in the future.
That is my offer to you; if you feel drawn to me and want to know more then please feel free to contact me for an informal chat and we’ll see where it goes from there.
There is no obligation to sign up to counselling by simply making enquiries and seeing if it is right for you.
I wish you all the best and thank you for taking time to learn more abut me and my style of working.
And I genuinely look forward to working with you.
Always with kindness